You've proven yourself again and again. So why does wanting something just for you feel so hard?

Is this you?

• Always in Service. A quiet resentment is building. You've shown up for everyone else, but now you want something for yourself.
• Afraid to Want. There's something you actually want, but you're almost embarrassed to say it out loud.
• Fear of Falling. You know you're capable of more. But the stakes feel higher now, and "what if I fail?" keeps you in your lane.
• Burnout Signals. The exhaustion is creeping in faster than it used to. Your body is starting to push back.
• Stuck or Overwhelmed. You know what's next — but fear or money worries are quietly keeping you small.
• The Cost of Safety. "Safe" is starting to cost you more than it saves.

Hi, I'm Adél

I'm a qualified life coach and counsellor based in Haarlem. Originally from South Africa, and having lived in Sweden for a while, I know firsthand what it takes to rebuild your life and prove yourself, over and over, and what the deep work of coming back to yourself actually involves.

After years as a high achiever in roles at Uber, Spotify, and banking, I had to confront my own chronic exhaustion and ask the questions I'd been avoiding: what do I actually want, and what does showing up for myself look like? These days I work with people standing at exactly that threshold. They are successful by every external measure, and quietly ready to want something of their own.

My approach is trauma-informed, which simply means I understand how patterns like people-pleasing, over-functioning, and "I'm fine" are often old survival strategies rather than character flaws. I know how to hold the heavier moments with care. I also know where coaching ends and a therapist's work begins, so you're always in safe hands.

I hold a Coach/Counsellor Practitioner Diploma from The ACC and I am working toward ICF registration, with ongoing supervision throughout.

My style is warm, direct, and structured. I combine evidence-based techniques with genuine human connection to help you get unstuck and build real, intrinsic momentum. NOBCO-Coach. ICF/EMCC in progress. 180+ sessions completed.

Coaching Services

Tailored coaching to meet you where you are right now. Currently unemployed? Ask about sliding scale options.

• Free Intro Call — 30-minute introductory video call. No commitment.
• Single Session — €63, 60 minutes. Deep, focused coaching tailored to your needs, with summary email, dedicated WhatsApp support, worksheets and book recommendations.
• Monthly Subscription — €240/month. Weekly 60-minute sessions plus up to 30 minutes of ad-hoc video support per month.
• Custom & Corporate — bespoke coaching packages for a specific challenge, team, or organisation. Custom session count and cadence; get in touch to scope it.

Frequently Asked Questions

What happens in a session?

Sessions are 60 minutes and follow your lead — a mix of deep conversation, reflection exercises, and practical tools, followed by a summary email with next steps, worksheets, and book recommendations.

Is this coaching or therapy?

I'm a qualified coach and counsellor — I can explore both the past and the future with you, but I do not diagnose mental health conditions. Many clients work with both a therapist and me.

I'm not in crisis — is coaching still for me?

Yes. Most of my clients are high achievers who look like they have it all together but feel exhausted, disconnected, or stuck on the inside. You don't need a clear goal to start.

Do you coach online or in person?

Primarily online via video call. In-person coaching is available in Haarlem on request.

What if I'm in crisis or need urgent support?

Coaching is not suitable for crisis. In the Netherlands, contact 112 (emergencies), 113 Suicide Prevention (0800-0113), De Luisterlijn (088 0767 000), or Veilig Thuis (0800-2000).