You've proven yourself again and again. So why does wanting something just for you feel so hard?

Is this you?

• Always in Service. You've shown up for everyone else — now something in you wants something for yourself.
• Afraid to Want. There's something you actually want — but you're almost embarrassed to say it out loud.
• Fear of Falling. You know you're capable of more. But the stakes feel higher now, and "what if I fail?" keeps you in your lane.
• Burnout Signals. The exhaustion is creeping in faster than it used to. Your body is starting to push back.
• Stuck or Overwhelmed. You know what's next — but fear or money worries are quietly keeping you small.
• The Cost of Safety. "Safe" is starting to cost you more than it saves.

Hi, I'm Adél

I'm a qualified life coach and counsellor based in Haarlem. South African by origin, with years in Sweden along the way — I know what it takes to rebuild a life, and the deeper work of coming back to yourself.

After years as a high-achiever at Uber, Spotify and in banking, I hit my own wall and finally asked the questions I'd been avoiding: what do I actually want, and what does showing up for myself look like? Today I work with people standing at that same threshold — successful on paper, quietly ready to want something real of their own.

I offer a trauma-informed approach: people-pleasing, perfectionism and "I'm fine" are usually old survival strategies, not character flaws. I hold the heavier moments with care, and I know where coaching ends and a therapist's work begins. My clients would describe me as empathetic, challenging, and structured.

I hold a Coach/Counsellor Practitioner Diploma from The ACC and am working toward ICF registration, with ongoing supervision throughout. NOBCO-Coach. ICF/EMCC in progress. 180+ sessions completed.

Coaching Services

Tailored coaching to meet you where you are right now. Currently unemployed? Ask about sliding scale options.

• Free Intro Call — 30-minute introductory video call. No commitment.
• Single Session — €63, 60 minutes. Deep, focused coaching tailored to your needs, with summary email, dedicated WhatsApp support, worksheets and book recommendations.
• 8-Session Package — €500 (or 3 × €167), 8 × 60 minutes. Sustained, meaningful change with flexible scheduling, summary emails, WhatsApp support and personalised worksheets.
• Monthly Subscription — €240/month. Weekly 60-minute sessions plus up to 30 minutes of ad-hoc video support per month.

Frequently Asked Questions

What happens in a session?

Sessions are 60 minutes and follow your lead — a mix of deep conversation, reflection exercises, and practical tools, followed by a summary email with next steps, worksheets, and book recommendations.

Is this coaching or therapy?

I'm a qualified coach and counsellor — I can explore both the past and the future with you, but I do not diagnose mental health conditions. Many clients work with both a therapist and me.

I'm not in crisis — is coaching still for me?

Yes. Most of my clients are high achievers who look like they have it all together but feel exhausted, disconnected, or stuck on the inside. You don't need a clear goal to start.

Do you coach online or in person?

Primarily online via video call. In-person coaching is available in Haarlem on request.

What if I'm in crisis or need urgent support?

Coaching is not suitable for crisis. In the Netherlands, contact 112 (emergencies), 113 Suicide Prevention (0800-0113), De Luisterlijn (088 0767 000), or Veilig Thuis (0800-2000).